In a world populated by chocolate and flowers, can skin flicks actually be considered sweet?

Much like chocolate and flowers, porn is a term that represents a myriad of different flavors, colors, and types. And, much like porn— just because you enjoy a chocolate now and again, doesn’t mean that you like all chocolate. While this analogy might seem like a bit of a stretch, the truth is that romantic gestures come in a variety of styles, where what you might consider wildly romantic, someone else— or even your partner— might think of as a bit dull. Which is a situation that probably represents some of the biggest hurdles to a lasting relationship: effective communication, genuine understanding, and the ability to do things solely because your partner is into them. 

Which means that, yes, even porn might be the romantic bauble that your partner is missing. The only way to find out is to ask them. Porn doesn’t have to be the hardcore, gangbang that tends to come to mind anytime erotica is mentioned. They can also represent something a bit slower and more sensual, or something fun and cheeky— talk Tushy porn for example. Regardless of what kind of porn you or your partner is interested in (if you are in fact interested at all), there is definitely a way to work it into your next date night. 

The Many Types of Porn

Circling back to the idea that porn is a bit like chocolate, there really is something for everyone in the porn department. Even if you’re not really all that into the stuff in the first place. Some porn can be slow, sweet, and decidedly soft core— which means that it hits a bit more like a steamy cinematic scene in your favorite Hollywood romance film— as opposed to a ton of bricks at your back door. But, if you or your partner are into the more deviant sides of things, there’s also some adult cinematic representation for you as well. 

Really, porn is so multifaceted, you’d almost have a harder time not finding some sort of porn you were into. So how exactly do you figure out what sort of flavor is most unctuous to your partner’s palette? Simple! Just ask. If talking about sexuality, personal preferences, and what you find super-hot puts you firmly in the shame closet, you need to reevaluate your priorities. Having an open and honest discussion about what turns you on— and in turn genuinely listening to your partner’s preferences— basically seals the deal of sexuality. 

Bringing Tushy Porn into Your Romantic Life 

So while you might not immediately gravitate towards porn as the ultimate romantic gesture, just talking about your preferences and what your partner likes can be incredibly romantic in and of itself. Moreover, you might learn some seriously necessary tips when it comes to how your partner would like to be treated in the bedroom. From different positions, scenarios, role-play, foreplay… the list is nearly endless, much like the predilections that go along with it. 

So, once you figure out what sort of porn sparks joy in your other half, you can then design an entire evening around that idea. Creating a sexy and sensual space that you’re both comfortable with, while providing a tangible receipt that you have listened to your partner when they told you what turns them on. Pick out some nice lingerie, or a fun costume, dim the lights or heat up the spotlight. Bring in the lace or the leather. Really, it’s entirely up to you, but pop on a dirty movie and get ready to blow Netflix and chill completely out of the water.